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Friday, 28 July 2017

Five for Friday

It's been a time of feelings...all the feelings. I've been reminded yet again just how important therapy is. Anxiety and stress means dealing with things and experiences I've  never dealt with before.

This post, by Laura is just wonderful. I think we forget that not everyone gets the parenting moments - but don't be mistaken we do love it.

August is shaping up to be very busy, on top of busy...and really I just want to shout for it to stop.

Keiden is being all kinds of sweet, and his hugs and cuddles are helping lots. Even with all his silly moments...and man are there very many silly moments.

Next week we're having a department conference...ja, that's going to be interesting.

What's up with you?

Friday, 21 July 2017

When it becomes too much

When it becomes too much, and the dog is heavy on your back please, please find someone you can tell.

In SA you can use these numbers from SADG

Dr Reddy's Help Line
0800 21 22 23
Pharmadynamics Police &Trauma Line
0800 20 50 26
Adcock Ingram Depression and Anxiety Helpline
0800 70 80 90
Destiny Helpline for Youth & Students
0800 41 42 43
ADHD Helpline
0800 55 44 33
Department of Social Development Substance Abuse Line 24hr helpline
0800 12 13 14
SMS 32312
Suicide Crisis Line
0800 567 567
SMS 31393
SADAG Mental Health Line
011 234 4837
Akeso Psychiatric Response Unit 24 Hour
0861 435 787


Friday, 7 July 2017

Five for Friday: Tiny Desk Edition

I recently found this awesome thing on NPR - Tiny Desk. It's a 3 songs set performed at the NPR offices. Charming, raw, delightful. I've come across some new to me musical acts, plus a few performances by musicians I've enjoyed before. Enjoy the 5 I've looped a few times.










Thursday, 6 July 2017

An interruption to your regular reading

There I was, getting a hair treat - deep conditioning, and blow - and while the hairdresser was busy with my hair the other customers started to chatter away in Afrikaans. Here's the thing Stellenbosch is an Afrikaans town, I read, write and speak it too...but not often, I tend to English. As a result I chat to my hairdresser in English because my Afrikaans is just too English. 

So for some reason  - the "you speak so well" bullshit, plus my accent that I get told is not South African, these other customers at the hairdresser decided I obviously don't understand Afrikaans. So they decided to have a big, fat chat with each other and the hairdresser about how my hair now looks good. And she is getting a workout trying to get my hair to look good. I walked in with big, curly fro going on. Now my hairdresser knows I know Afrikaans but she did not a damn shut them up or anything.

Yes, I didn't say anything because I AM FREAKING TIRED of always having to be the PoC calling white folks on their ish. It is not my job to stop you from being an idiot. Get a freaking clue.

This brings me to a few things.

Is it your business what I do with my hair that doesn't meet your bullshit idea of what "good" hair is? NO!

Is it your business that I speak better than you expect someone of my skin tone to do? NO!

Is how I dress any of your business? NO!

Is my weight any of your business? NO!

Is any part of my life/journey/thoughts your business? NO!

So how about this stay about of my business, when I want your opinion I'll ask you. And trust me, I know it goes both ways.

Take your stupid, heteronormative, hegemonic bullshit views and get them away from me.

MY JOURNEY IS NOT YOURS. YOUR JOURNEY IS NOT MINE!


Friday, 23 June 2017

That one time I went to a thing

Yesterday, this lucky fish got attend a launch for Baby Dove SA, and oh my goodness was it a good time.


One of the very pretty displays showing off the range.

The venue was gorgeous, the products all kinds of cool...and the people were both.  The all kinds of awesome Chereen - who very kindly was my ride - and I arrived a smidge late, but we weren't the last to arrive, so we got in some chatting with folks before things got going. I grabbed some coffee, and said hi to those and I knew, including some of my favourite people, found a seat and learnt some great things.

The event started with a panel, with the ladies on it sharing their parenting journey and story. The focus was very much on how we feel judged about how we mother, and that we should trust ourselves, and be real. As such we were asked to write down our wish for ourselves and other parents when it came to parenting. You can see mine in the pic below :0

My wish for parents, we were asked to write and share these

Throughout the venue - a rather gorgeous house - were framed sayings, and letters from moms to moms. It was a cunning plan to have this happen in a house, because we were being introduced to something we would bring into our own homes for our families. Post the panel we moved to a different room where there was a large table in the middle. The table was used to demonstrate some aspects of the products, the demonstrations were part of a fascinating information session with some of the kick ass ladies on the research and development team. Dove took great care in working with pediatricians who know their stuff. Everything is hypoallergenic, pediatrician approved, and just lush. 

Bonus points, none of the products were tested on animals, and the grey bathwater can be used on your plants. And here in SA there is also a petrolum jelly, a product just for the South African range - it turns out it is something the market wants here.
Pretty packaging ftw!
I had a great time, with some great food, friends and all the learning about the many layers that make up our skin - why yes, I'm a bit of a nerd :p We also got products to take home and try. J, K and I tried the wipes - which don't tear, and come out of the package one at a time. Yes, ONE AT A TIME, and they're not overly wet or dry..pretty much a perfect wipe. FYI, the normal wipes got my mascara off pretty well. You don't try all the wipes too? ;)  Keiden tried the sensitive lotion last night, and it worked a treat.

The range to try out.
The range is already at BabyCity, BabyBoom and BabiesRUs stories, and will be in all the usual stores come the start of July. It is a premium baby product, and as such is priced a bit higher than some other baby products, but it's worth it.\

And of course a great big thank you to all the people who made this happen. It was a great time :D

Thursday, 22 June 2017

Book Thursday: Book Blitz All The Glitters by Tracy Krimmer

Hiya folks, by now you know the drill for these book blitz posts. As seems to be the norm for these book tours there is a giveaway attached.

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My thoughts on the book


All That GlittersMy rating: 3 of 5 stars

Goodness this was a tricky read, and as such it's a 2.5 read. I think this was the first instance of getting both central characters points of view, where it didn't serve the story well.

The first chapter has you starting with Dory, and you end the book with Harris. And as such for me it felt rather incomplete. This is Dory's story. Yes, Harris is part of it, but any growth and change in him was minor. Especially, when compared to just what Dory was dealing with.

Part of the two of them getting together include the "unfinished" high school elements. That read as very contrived to me.

That said, Dory's story would be very different for not some of the way in which having Harris there impacted her actions. And the same for Harris. I appreciate that the author did clearly establish both characters as separate people, and not just add-ins to the stories.

Still more Dory, in her story...and some more Tammy and Dory's grandmother moments would have gone a long way.

*I am a lucky fish and received an ARC of this book*

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You can find All That Glitters on Goodreads

You can buy All That Glitters here.

Tracy KrimmerAbout the Author:
Tracy's love of writing began at nine years old. She wrote stories about aliens at school, machines that did homework for you, and penguins. Now she pens books and short stories about romance. She loves to read a great book, whether it be romance or science fiction, or any genre in between, or pop popcorn and catch up on her favorite TV shows or movies. She's been known to crush a candy or two as well. Her loves include fitness, reading, coffee, dogs, and naps (not in that order), and her dislikes are blue cheese, cold weather, and burpees.

You can find and contact Tracy here:
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Tuesday, 20 June 2017

On some of my favourite people

Hiya folks, here's a random post for you from the ether :p

A bit ago the five of us (the five of us are me and the four awesome ladies you see with me in the pic to the left) were having one of our random chats. This one came from a guest post thoughts tangent. We figured everyone do a guest post for each other's blogs. 

And while I'm still figuring out what I would actually write for their blogs, I was immediately hit with an idea of sharing why each of them is one of my favourite people. And as such I'm going to indulge myself and talk about some of my favourite people - who I talk to daily. People who have the very rare gift of being able to speak Cassey - which may or may not be why they're some of my favourite people :p

I'm going to go in reverse alphabetical order, because I figure Zoe hardly gets to go first with things :p

Zoe, (who you can find here) is one of my favourite people because she talks geek, baby wearing, has a quirky sense of humor that matches mine. I can send her messages just containing emojis and she gets what I want to say. She has the most wonderful gift of being a listener who knows how to get you to see all sides of something. She applies rationality to things with a massive extra portion of love/get-it/understanding of who she is speaking to.

Mandy, (who you can find here) is one of my favourite people because she's a great big squishy of love, believe-in-others and goodness. There is no one I know that has such unwavering faith in others, who chases after dreams and just cares as much as her. Mandy always, always speaks with love...even when there might be situations that don't deserve her love, it's still there. Love and care makes her.

Jonelle, (who you can find here) is one of my favourite people because she makes plans and follows through on them. She is and will always be unabashedly herself. She will speak the truth to you - even if you think you don't need it, she will have you see it. Her see to the heart of something gift, is all kinds of mad skills.

Ella, (who you can find here) is one of my favourite people because she is also a truth teller. She tells you the truth in a different way to Jonelle, but between the two of them the truth shall be had. Love and care is also baked into what she does. Ella is just all kinds of amazing, and her story has you seeing it. And the way she parents her A...all the love.

So I'm sure you can see with these four amazing ladies around, it certainly makes my day better. They are my truth tellers, the ones who believe in me, who offer support and get-it-ness. Sure we have our silly goose moments, but goodness is it worth it. The care, love and cheerleader-ness is one of the best things, #thatisall :p

Wednesday, 14 June 2017

That one time...I busted my ankle

Last Friday, Keiden and I had left the local library and were on our way to get some hot chocolate. Sadly, that plan went a bit pear shaped. Keiden wanted me to carry him for a bit, and while doing so, as we were walking past town hall my foot wobbled. End result, my foot went one way and I the other aka a big fall 0_o

Fortunately, I manged to keep Keiden from getting hurt. Me...not so much. It hurt, it hurt in a "I can't brush myself off and walk this off way." So I phoned Jerall - whose office was really close by. Thing is this happened outside town hall, Keiden was crying from fright...there was a security person not more than 10 steps away from us, but no one helped. Wait, there was a stellar person who offered to help move me, but I was afraid to move and was just about to call Jerall. Big yay you to that person.

So Keiden and I waited for Jerall for about 10 minutes. During that time groups of people walked past us and just stared, or averted their eyes...but they just carried on. AND MY KID WAS CRYING! Not a little cry, that I'm scared cry. The anger though certainly kept me from crying. I managed to get K calm and said he had to help me see when daddy was coming to us.

I don't know about you, but I'm not the ignore people person. So this was utterly ridiculous to me. How, just how could people be ignoring this?

Anyhow, Jerall arrived and had to convince the security to let him drive up to us because you know, I fell. He got Keiden into his car seat, double checked him out - parenting means check your kid first - and then we managed to get me in the car. At which point I could kinda start crying, no big sobs like I wanted to - didn't want to freak out K.

We went to the doctor, he checked me out and said I needed x-rays because of where my extra sensitive pain was - he touched the outside of my foot and I cried. But we had to go to the hospital for the x-rays. This meant more find a wheelchair, get in and out of the car shenanigans. And after the x-rays at the hospital back to the doctor for another round of shenanigans. Through all of this Keiden was a superstar, a bit shook up, but such a star. When I was in a wheelchair he got to be the pilot of the spaceship and steered using the force (Keiden has a great skill to bring everything back to Star Wars :D ).

Back at the doctor's office he said I had ruptured and torn ligaments, and he couldn't see a break. But, the swelling could be hiding a small crack, so he would wait for the radiologists report to make the final call. In the meanwhile 6 hours of icing the ankle, and all the foot up resting until he knew if I needed a moon boot or an ankle brace. Folks, icing your ankle during winter, is just cruel punishment for being clumsy.

It turns out I'm not so happy with spending all day in bed if it's not my idea. Not to forget that I'm not the best at doing work at home, so I'm now 5 days behind on my thesis work :( Fortunately, yesterday doc confirmed from the report no bone injury. So now I have this hardcore ankle brace, called a speedbrace, that I'm to wear every day for 6 weeks. The kicker it takes 3 months for your ankle to heal fully. *fun times*

Hopefully, I've learnt my lesson and won't keep on taking full use of my body for granted. Also, Jerall's mad budget skills are great - the emergency doc appointment, x-rays and brace were not covered on our medical aid plan, so everything was out of pocket. I'm so glad we could make that out of pocket work. Also I think my kid should become an orthotist - I saw him for less than 5 minutes and it wasn't a cheap visit :0

Thursday, 1 June 2017

Book Thursday: Blitz and Review Keeping Kyler by Siobhan Davis

I'm sure that by now you know how I feel about Siobhan Davis, and why when there's a chance to spread the word about her books I do. If not take a look at all of these posts :0 

Below you'll see the blurb, under that my review, and last but not least there is a giveaway running during the entire book tour/blitz.

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Blurb

Nothing or no one will keep them apart… 
Kyler Kennedy is in the wind.
Shocked and upset, he has taken off on a solo mission—to track down his mom’s ex and demand answers.

Faye understands what it’s like to have your world turned upside down. Determined to support her boyfriend, she gives chase. Yet nothing could prepare her for the ugly truth. Ky has always been plagued with inner demons, and as he falls apart, Faye finally discovers what he’s been hiding from her—from everyone.

When serious accusations arise, Kyler’s future hangs in the balance. But Kennedys stick together in times of crisis, and they rally around him now.

At least there is nothing to prevent Faye and Ky from being together. They go public with their relationship, but not everyone is thrilled for them. Enemies reappear, and fresh battle lines are drawn, but Faye is ready to fight back.

No one is taking her new family from her.

Especially not a manipulative ex.

With time running out for Kyler, Faye takes matters into her own hands.

But when you play with fire, you risk getting burned.


You can find Keeping Kyler on Goodreads
You can buy Keeping Kyler on Amazon

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Review

Keeping Kyler (The Kennedy Boys #3)

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

This is a tricky review for me. You see, I love, love reading a series. The characters become friends, and each book is a catch-up session with friends. And while there was some of that, there was also a lot of new things happening.

Which works when I remember that this is book 3 of The Kennedy Boys, and not book 3 of the Faye and Kyler story. Yet, this book is both. And it's when I think of this as book 3 of the F and K story that the book goes from a 4 star rating to 3. There is a degree of new details that need to happen to keep the concluding part of a story ticking over well enough for a third book. I just feel that the amount of new to keep the story going was just a few too many.

With it throwing me for another loop as a lot of the new, isn't something I see as needed for the next story. It is the strangest thing to me that I think there's too much story. Like how can there be too much story? Yet, somehow it is.

There is a lot of the story that feels like a daytime soap of the young, rich and beautiful. Which if that is your thing makes this work - and yes, soaps are my thing :p

Aside from that series of odd thoughts, as always a story from Siobhan Davis makes for the happy. She is an author I always enjoy reading, and this book doesn't change that.

*Lucky fish that I am, I got an ARC of the book*

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Giveaway

There is a giveaway during the book blitz for Keeping Kyler. The giveaway is open Internationally. These are the prizes you can win:
- a $10 Amazon gift card
- a signed paperback copy of Finding Kyler by Siobhan Davis
- a paperback copy of Fallen Crest High by Tijan

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Friday, 26 May 2017

Five for Friday


In a recent post, Ella used a phrase I'm loving: "drowning in life". And that, folks is me, so me right now it's all kinds of ridiculous.

My big girl dreams - another thanks to Ella phrase - are kicking my ass. My timeline for my thesis got moved up. I'm to give my supervisor a completed final draft in the first week of September. So ummm excuse me while I cry in the corner while not really sleeping and living on coffee and carbs.

On a happier note, Keiden is counteracting some of the worst toddler moments with extra cute ones. He recently told me in the midst of me being mid grump with him over his behavior that he likes lying with me at night and that he likes me (all the awwww). Sure, it was most likely a moment of manipulation too, but it was just all kinds of mommy heart melting.


This on the establishment is just all kinds of an amazing read. It's that kick start we all need to take a good look at why we believe what we believe/what got us thinking along a certain path.

And to end on a smile, yesterday morning Jerall made cake for breakfast :D

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